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Let me share with you a response I made to an email I received yesterday. It was from a man who wanted to help me promote my business on the Internet. I want to be very transparent about this because it is important information you need to know.

Let’s begin with what I learned about myself last night (March 19, 2009) when I attended the Dale Carnegie Training course.  I saw a side of myself that I was not aware of, that I come off as arrogant and abrasive to people. This is not who I want to be or how I want to represent myself.

I share this information with you about my discovery because I see this same characteristic  in others who are in this field, who may not yet recognize it in themselves. As Dr. Phil says, “We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.” So please read my email response to this kind person. Then I will tell you why I wrote this posting and why I titled it the way I did.

I appreciate your offer but I am part of Marketing Merge and Renegade University. I have applied the principles taught there and doing pretty well. Now I am chosing to take the next step in my career and become a mentor for network marketers.

I am excited about this and what I will be able to do for others with this training. I am writing updates on my blog about what I am learning from my Carnegie experience. I know what I’ve learned will help others like me. Perhaps you will check out my blogs. I will be adding one more article tonight about what I learned this evening.

I have done MLM for over thirty years. I’ve had the best teachers, read all the books suggested on the reading list, listened to every training and positive motivation tape, gone to every seminar and every business meeting, and sat with the most successful people in the field … and I not exaggerating bout any of this. I’ve succeeded and failed, picked myself up and started over again and again, which is really the nature of network marketing.      

I know when a business is not within FTC regulations and will be shut down when they get noticed. I know when hype is used to cover up a sinking ship or holes in the plan. I know when someone is only interested in their success after stepping over people to get there. I know a “come-on” or an approach the minute I hear it, I learned them all and used them.

I have gathered so much knowledge and experience over the years and so I have been mentoring others; I found out that I am good at it too. So now that is what I’m doing, along with my Network Marketing business.

However, I realize there are thousands of mentors on the Internet so what makes me different enough to get clientele? I enrolled in the Dale Carnegie Training. It cost just under $2,000 for the 12 week course. When I complete the course, I will become an instructor for them. Having the Carnegie Course under my belt will make me a better person, a better leader, a better trainer, and a better mentor. This one thing can put me a step above most of those who profess to be mentors on the Internet.

Now you must be asking why I titled this post “It’s All About Me!” What I learned at Carnegie is that everything I did up to that point was all about me. For the first time I realized that people saw through me and knew that my objective was centered around me. I did not see how what I contributed might be helpful to others. But I saw that clearly tonight, and that was only the second class.

The truth is, Dale Carnegie wrote the book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, to teach people that you get what you want when you help people get what they want. Being sincerely interesting in the other person, listening to them and what they want, and being humble enough to accept that this is not about me. Being humble and sincere was not the way someone would describe me, and I realized that tonight.

People see through the fakes, those only interested in themselves. I recognized that person was who I had become, even though I thought of myself as being a server. That may have been true in the past, but that is not the case now. I am so grateful for what I learned tonight. I now understand a lot more about myself and how I can be a better mentor and serve people.

I welcome your comments on this topic and if you have recognized this flaw in your own character because of this article.

Thanks,

Judith Sherman

I am using this site as my offical consulting network as a life coach. I will be forwarding my other websites to this one or repost articles from there to this one.

I am NOT a therapist or a licensed consultant. I do NOT have a practice as a therapist. Consultations are based on personal experience and successes with counseling family and friends. I have also had success with counseling people on some of my websites.

My assistance mainly consists of listening to people and helping them come to their own conclusions about what they need to do.  The following people have said the following about their experience with me. 

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Diane said, “JuLynne provides consulting services for home, business, and web. She has a blend of compassion and boldness in her writing”. 

Others said these kind words: 

Doyle said, “It’s as if you wrote the book for me…You have the amazing power to mirror life in general.” 

Carol said, “You’re the only person I’ve found in my entire life who truly understands where I’m coming from.” 

Anne said, “I was able to put things to rest because of what I read in your book.” 

A businessman and writer as well, Terrance Norton gives the following endorsement. “With her infinate love for mankind, she will do and say what she feels is right. I can say with confidence that Judy has tough skin, and yet she has a wonderfully soft heart with compassion oozing out of her towards mankind.”

Terrance continues by saying, “Known to be cheerful when facing trials, Judy looks at adversity and laughs about how she deals with it. For sure, she knows what peace in the middle of chaos means. She doesn’t just talk it, she lives it. She writes about this topic because that is her heart, a mentor to help people in times that seem to have no end. So why would she laugh when most of us will go the ways of our character weaknesses? She laughs because she chooses to focus on the postitive and not the negative. ”

Email Judith@JudithSherman.com

Also, I will ask permission for these people and those below to give out their email addresses so you can contact them personally.

Brenda Williams

Michelle Hadley