JudithShermanConsultingBusiness.Network Marketing.Life.Family

Do you appreciate the powerful force that women have in society?

When was the last time you thought about the impact women have on us in general and how we would be without their influence?

At her best, a woman is an angel and an inspiration – exemplifying to most us what womanhood means.

At her worst, however, a woman is the picture of evil – partially responsible for the breakdown of the family unit and the downfall of society.

Women are lovely, soft, gentle, kind, persuasive, and a blessing to society. Also, they represent sensuality, lust, and sometimes naughtiness.

A women can do just about anything she wants today – perhaps even become President of the United States or a ruler of whatever country in which she lives.

The characteristics I just described clearly represent women of today; they are an awesome creation.

Some women are meek and dependent on men, other women are physically and emotionally strong and very independent – rarely needing the assistance of a man.

A woman can be a blessing or a thorn in man’s side. This would depend on whether she is selfish and self-serving or not and if her agenda is in agreement with his.

Alas, womanhood also represents the warm and gentle arms every man and child looks for when they are hurt or need love. She gives him a warm place to fall or is his soft pillow when he has had a bad day.

Women create a lovely home environment and makes life bearable in a dreary world.

• She has the ability to make the world go away and become a heaven on earth instead.
• She is the ray of sunshine in the center of a hurricane.
• She is the lovely smell of flowers in the midst of a garbage pit.
• She is everything good and bad all wrapped up into one neat package.
• She encompasses what most men would die for, and still she has energy left to raise a family.
• She is a multi-task expert as a house-keeper, bookkeeper, executive secretary, cook, teacher, childcare specialist, counselor, errand girl, professional buyer, party planner, hostess, sex partner, and confidant.

Sometimes a woman is misunderstood and under-appreciated: she’s seen as just “plain Jane” and nothing very special or interesting. This is a sad situation, not only for the woman but for the man as well because he is missing out by not enjoying her beautiful qualities.

“Make an ugly woman your wife and you will be happy for the rest of your life” are words taken from a song that I enjoyed in the 1960s. There is wisdom in those words. What one man sees as ugly could be beautiful to another, especially when she is allowed to bloom and be herself.

A women needs to be cherished for her divine nature and loved for her loving heart. She needs to be appreciated for her kindness and compassion, for her ability to soothe an aching spirit and soul, and for her ability to nurse our physical wounds and sufferings.

A woman is a creature that not only encompasses everything good, she is sexual enough to satisfy the wild beast in man – without question, she is a marvelous and extraordinary creation!

Take the time to contemplate on the blessing she is to you. If she is not a blessing, then please take her aside and tell her how you feel. Ask her how you can help her become more of who she wants to be. Give her the support she needs to be that person and to be more of what you want her to be as well.

Take the time to remember the women you fell in love with, even if it has been over 50 years of marriage. Tell her often that she is important to you and that you care about her happiness.

Teach your children to appreciate women and to honor and respect them. Teach them to treat women properly and to love them with care and attention. Just as you take care of a beautiful flower to keep it blooming, be sure to take care of your beautiful woman so she can keep blooming.

Men will feel more like men when they treat women with respect and kindness, and women will reward them with the things they want when they do.

Let me share with you a response I made to an email I received yesterday. It was from a man who wanted to help me promote my business on the Internet. I want to be very transparent about this because it is important information you need to know.

Let’s begin with what I learned about myself last night (March 19, 2009) when I attended the Dale Carnegie Training course.  I saw a side of myself that I was not aware of, that I come off as arrogant and abrasive to people. This is not who I want to be or how I want to represent myself.

I share this information with you about my discovery because I see this same characteristic  in others who are in this field, who may not yet recognize it in themselves. As Dr. Phil says, “We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.” So please read my email response to this kind person. Then I will tell you why I wrote this posting and why I titled it the way I did.

I appreciate your offer but I am part of Marketing Merge and Renegade University. I have applied the principles taught there and doing pretty well. Now I am chosing to take the next step in my career and become a mentor for network marketers.

I am excited about this and what I will be able to do for others with this training. I am writing updates on my blog about what I am learning from my Carnegie experience. I know what I’ve learned will help others like me. Perhaps you will check out my blogs. I will be adding one more article tonight about what I learned this evening.

I have done MLM for over thirty years. I’ve had the best teachers, read all the books suggested on the reading list, listened to every training and positive motivation tape, gone to every seminar and every business meeting, and sat with the most successful people in the field … and I not exaggerating bout any of this. I’ve succeeded and failed, picked myself up and started over again and again, which is really the nature of network marketing.      

I know when a business is not within FTC regulations and will be shut down when they get noticed. I know when hype is used to cover up a sinking ship or holes in the plan. I know when someone is only interested in their success after stepping over people to get there. I know a “come-on” or an approach the minute I hear it, I learned them all and used them.

I have gathered so much knowledge and experience over the years and so I have been mentoring others; I found out that I am good at it too. So now that is what I’m doing, along with my Network Marketing business.

However, I realize there are thousands of mentors on the Internet so what makes me different enough to get clientele? I enrolled in the Dale Carnegie Training. It cost just under $2,000 for the 12 week course. When I complete the course, I will become an instructor for them. Having the Carnegie Course under my belt will make me a better person, a better leader, a better trainer, and a better mentor. This one thing can put me a step above most of those who profess to be mentors on the Internet.

Now you must be asking why I titled this post “It’s All About Me!” What I learned at Carnegie is that everything I did up to that point was all about me. For the first time I realized that people saw through me and knew that my objective was centered around me. I did not see how what I contributed might be helpful to others. But I saw that clearly tonight, and that was only the second class.

The truth is, Dale Carnegie wrote the book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, to teach people that you get what you want when you help people get what they want. Being sincerely interesting in the other person, listening to them and what they want, and being humble enough to accept that this is not about me. Being humble and sincere was not the way someone would describe me, and I realized that tonight.

People see through the fakes, those only interested in themselves. I recognized that person was who I had become, even though I thought of myself as being a server. That may have been true in the past, but that is not the case now. I am so grateful for what I learned tonight. I now understand a lot more about myself and how I can be a better mentor and serve people.

I welcome your comments on this topic and if you have recognized this flaw in your own character because of this article.

Thanks,

Judith Sherman